Month: August 2019

Family, Focus and a CEO!

Last week my daughter said “I want to give you a date to think about”, and I knew right away that meant she was looking for a babysitter. To her credit she knows me well enough to realize I’m not good at spur of the minute decisions, but I had just returned from the five day trip to the FAPA Conference, and I was exhausted. So being me, I told her to wait before even asking.

Grandmothers are supposed to want to be with their grandkids, right? And I do, but I also need time to do all the necessary parts of my job, and that’s where the disconnect comes in. Being a writer is my job; but only other writers understand that.

When I was in banking no one would have questioned the fact that I was working through the week, and not available for childcare. But now that I work from home it’s a whole new situation. Let me say right now that although I love my girls and my grandchildren, I took early retirement to write, not to be a babysitter.

Last week I was talking with a friend who has her grandkids all the time. I told her how much I admired her but she agreed that it can be a lot of work. She also shared that it might be different if she had a second career like I do, so I felt a small amount of relief for my feelings, but still a lot of guilt when I see how involved in their lives she is.

Is there a solution, because I can’t seem to find one. If I say “no” to requests to babysit I’m full of self reproach and it follows me like a dark cloud. If I say “yes” I see the time I need to be writing or editing slipping away, and that takes away from the enjoyment of being with the children.

What did I do when the question was finally asked? And yes, it was for babysitting services, but with options. At first I took the easiest, which was staying overnight on a Sunday evening to take my grandson to school on Monday morning, and then have my day left to write. But then this past weekend we were all together to celebrate birthdays and I saw my oldest grandson, who’s sixteen, six feet two and now a licensed driver, and I realized how much of his life I had missed out on during my busy banking career, and it broke my heart.

So now I’ve changed my mind and the other grandmother can have school duty and I’ll have a slumber party with my four year old granddaughter on Sunday night. We’ll play dolls and I’ll watch her ride her new bike on Monday while my daughter and her husband take the baby to their last court meeting before her adoption is final. Will I be totally frazzled by Monday evening? Yes, but I won’t feel guilty and I’ll have made some new memories with my grand-girl, who says I’m her best friend.

I’m still looking for guidance on how to get my family and friends to understand that writing is my job and it needs my time and focus, but until I find just the right words I’ll continue to be the CEO of my world. That’s Chief Everything Officer by the way!

Next week’s post is an interview with B.B. Swann, Author of Breaking The Barriers, a Young Adult Coming of Age Romance. Check it out on Amazon.

Until we read again…📚


Dana L❤️

This is a signed Will Moses print that I got when the first grandchild was three. It’s titled Visiting Grandma and it’s how I envisioned being a grandmother would be. It’s a beautiful picture but just not quite me!

FAPA 2019

The Greysons, Book III of the AMI Series, won two Silver Medals at this year’s FAPA Presidential awards. In honor of this exciting recognition my publisher, SYP Publishing, is offering the Kindle Box Set of The AMI Series FREE on August 8th! This is a 1 Day offer, so I hope you will take advantage of it.

This year’s Florida Authors and Publishers Conference was great! The sessions were interesting and informative, and I learned so much. Marketing was the focus, and even though I always feel that marketing is my strength, this was a different type of marketing . I’m anxious to go through my notes now and see what I can do better.

Two of my FAPA friends, Pat Stanford and Kathryn Knight, were up for Adult Cover Design along with me, and Pat’s book of poetry, The Proverbs of My Seasons, won the Gold Medal. Her book is beautiful so I’m fine with that decision. Kathryn and I tied for Silver, so it was truly a friendly fight!

A few weeks ago I highlighted Kathryn on this blog, and her book Unveiled The Twenty & Odd won the Gold Medal in the category of Adult Non Fiction. I’m so proud of her!

Hayley Rose, another dear author friend, was the Gold Medalist in Children’ Picture Book Ages 0-7 for FIFO, Today I Feel Emotion. I bought this book for my granddaughter’s 1st Birthday last fall, and she loves it!

Another Silver Medalist was Kip Koelsch, author of Delphys Rising. His book won in Adult Fiction Horror/ Suspense. I bought the book for The Captain, and I’m sure he’ll enjoy it.

And of course, there’s me! Winning the Silver in Adult Romance was such a blessing and knowing how many entrants there were in the category makes it that much more special!

There were so many new people to meet this year, as well as old friends who didn’t attend, but overall it was a wonderful weekend and I’m exhausted. At our first FAPA Conference Bob had a wine glass made with Lottie Loser engraved on it and it’s a tradition that continues. It’s such a thoughtful gift and I cherish each one.

Don’t forget about the 1Day FREE offer of the Kindle Box Set of The AMI Series. It’s a great value and will have you ready for next year when Noah’s story releases.

Until we read again…📚


Dana L. ❤️